It has been almost a year since I started this blog…well 10 months really. And in that time I have been on a journey to reconnect to my inner happiness. It lies within me, within us all…all the time…available. We just have to tap into it….to allow it to come into our lives.
Seems simple really, but it has been a bumpy road filled with so much learning, knowing, joy and some sadness that had to be wiped away occasionally. When I read this quote by Dale Carnegie recently, it really stuck with me. Simple and not so simple sometimes. Just change your thoughts…
But in reality, it takes time to change our thought patterns…and we need patience with ourselves. If we have been in a worrying frame of mind….my legacy given to me by my mom and my aunt who raised her….forever worrying about every little thing, thought, detail….we won’t just stop worrying at the drop of a hat. Or maybe in a negative cycle where we think everything is going to go wrong…nothing ever works out….we just aren’t meant to be happy or to have nice things….well you get the picture. I remember hearing some of this too growing up. Part of a generation plagued by a Depression and war.
And when you have been exposed to or been part of these limiting thoughts for so long, they become you. There is a fear in letting them go because they have been part of your identity. Long engrained habitual thinking. And there is the thought….If I stop the worry, what will I replace it with? We even have long-held social interactions with family and friends around the worry…the negative. Now how do I or who do I talk with if I give it all up?
I know this may sound crazy, but the fear and not wanting to let it all go can be real. And it can completely change who and how we interact with those closest to us….some friendships may even slip away because the negativity is too much for us once we begin to change.
I have been dealing with changing thought patterns for a long time around family. You can easily get sucked back in, as I did early on years ago as I began this change. Especially when family doesn’t want to change. But now I think about what I want for myself. How I want to feel. I think about the happiness always there for me….something I choose to tap into as often as possible.
And I want to enjoy my life…connect with people over mutual interests and celebrate the achievements we all are making. So I continue to be a role model for some family and friends turning conversations to the positive….talking about the good things happening. Changing the perspective, seeing the gifts laid before me each moment.
The flowers blooming and shifting, the cries of laughter of children playing outside my window, the birds…new ones visiting daily with new songs to witness. The flowers are springing up all over dotting the landscape with a rainbow of colors….oh the heavenly perfume. These wonders keep me connected to my inner bliss.
Will there be sad times…the loss of loved ones….the worry when a loved one is sick? Absolutely. That is just part of life. But I try not to dwell there for long….I look for the gifts always around me, and lift up those who may be in pain with kindnesses….a bouquet of flowers or just a smile. Trying to always see the magic, the tingly joyful times before me.
Special Note: The flowers pictured here are columbines, specifically Aquilegia Vulgaris ‘Nora Barlow Pink’. In The Language of Flowers, columbines represent being anxious and trembling. Such a lovely flower to have such worries, but I will dwell on their beauty not their meaning.
I leave you with more thoughts about the power of positive thinking. Feel free to download this photo and share.
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