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The Worry-Go-Round

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“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”

Corrie ten Boom

 

I come from a long line of worriers.  My world was steeped in their distress.  Maybe they worried because of the events of their time… living in poverty, experiencing many wars.  Losing loved ones and friends to sickness.  Survival was their mantra.

 

But as they grew it seemed their worries only grew, never diminishing.  And that was the world I knew.  If I was sick, the worry was would I survive….of course I was sickly as a young child, born with asthma and almost died of pneumonia when I was one.  And I began to worry at an early age, as children listen and take in the feelings around them.

 

The daily messages were life sucks, nothing ever goes right, we can’t catch a break…the not-so-positive messages that were not always in your face, but presented more subtly.  So we were raised with that subliminal message to think the worst would always happen.  Maybe it was a survival technique.  If you didn’t raise your hopes, then they couldn’t be dashed too harshly.

 

But in living with these negative messages of circumstance all the time, I would never think to aim too high…I was afraid of the long fall.  And life was predetermined so just suck it up and live with the misery.  As I look back on it, I realized how sad some of those worriers were.  They did not have much of a life because they would never dare to strive for it.  And I seemed to always be settling for what was thrust upon me having no hope to make it better.

 

 

DSCN1240I am not sure when the shift happened….it was a slow turn where I would work at worrying less.  But I’d get only so far away from the Worry Road, and then something would happen.  The worry would suck me in dropping me back on the Worry-Go-Round until I was dizzy with it again.

 

But I can tell you when I was freed from the endless, needless cycle or worry.  It began when I started to slow, to just be with myself.  It continued with daily practices of meditation, leaning in to emotions and then letting them go.  When I dropped self-judgment and immersed myself in doing what I loved, I found happiness surrounded me, a beacon shining from deep within.  

 

Currently I find any worries have been pushed into my subconscious and show up in my dreams from time to time.  So when I catch these worries, I am gentle with myself as I acknowledge there is nothing to fear and then I bid it adieu.  I am not perfect with this…nor will I ever be.  It is a process to lessen the worries that will show up from time to time.  But they cannot last long as each dawn that beacon chases away any darkness that wants to linger.

 

 

As a side note….I have recently come across many readings about worry.  It was also one of the lessons I worked through during Sandra Pawula’s Mini-Mindfulness Challenge.  I liked the gentle way she approached diminishing worry.  If you have a chance check out her blog, and this wonderful set of lessons.

 

 

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Special Note:  Queen Anne’s Lace signifies haven, home, comfort; antidotes for worry.

 

 

The picture below is my gift to you this week.  Please download it and use it to spread light.

QAL-worry

 

 

All original content is copyrighted and the sole property of Donna Donabella @ Living From Happiness, 2014.  Any reprints or use of content or photos is by permission only.

 

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20 Comments

  1. September 18, 2014    

    An inspiring post, Donna. It’s true that living from hope and positive thinking diminish worry. And I love the Queen Anne’s Lace. 🙂

    • September 18, 2014    

      QAL was beautiful this year. I couldn’t get enough of it and now I know why…it was perfect to keep my worries at bay!

  2. September 18, 2014    

    I’m glad you got out of the worry cycle. I had quite a negative childhood and I found that my faith in God made me so different from the rest of the family. It’s something that separates us but I’m ok with that so I can be around positive people.

    • September 18, 2014    

      I know what you mean Bettyl. I have to spend little time with some family members or learn to ignore so much…and then again I also don’t tell them much so they won’t worry.

  3. Debbie Debbie
    September 18, 2014    

    Thank you so much from one worrier to another. Beautiful post.

  4. September 18, 2014    

    I too am a worrier. I cross my bridges mentally before I am sure that there is a river. Sometimes it is useful. It gives me time to consider alternative plans.
    Often it is a soul sucker and a waste of precious energy. Getting better, but I need to be vigilant. A post which speaks to many of us – thank you.

    • September 18, 2014    

      I think that is all we can do is keep trying to throw worry aside….it is all about realizing we are on that Worry-Go-Round which you have Soosie!

  5. September 18, 2014    

    I so resonate with your story, Donna. I think I also have ancestral grief or worry in my bones. Like you, I don’t know how it happened exactly, but one day I woke up and realized how useless worry is. Of course, I’m not rid of it entirely but it no longer rules my life. Thanks for sharing so openly and honestly. Your story and transformation gives us all hope! And, thanks for including the link to my mini-mindfulness challenge.

    • September 19, 2014    

      Thank you Sandra for having the challenge…it certainly brought the worry to the forefront for me to help continue to fight it.

  6. September 18, 2014    

    I ca so relate to this. I was raised with the words “you can’t” and “they won’t let you”. Took a long time and hard work to get past this mindset…and I am still working on it.

    • September 19, 2014    

      Thank you Patricia for sharing your story…I am amazed and how we all seem to know this Worry-Go-Round…wonderful to hear you are working on getting rid of the worry mindset too.

  7. September 19, 2014    

    we need to weave a worry catcher as well as one that holds our dreams! very nicely written Donna and inspirational

    p.s. when I stopped worrying I put on weight 😐

    • September 19, 2014    

      I like that idea Laura…a worry catcher. I put on weight too but when I started worrying and now stopping….

  8. September 19, 2014    

    That would make a lovely meditation — a Queen Anne’s lace worry catcher, into which the day’s worries slowly drift and fall away, like dust carried on the wind.

    • September 19, 2014    

      I agree Meg…I love the image and may have to try it.

  9. September 20, 2014    

    Just want you to know, Donna, that I love your new blog and read every post. I don’t comment, however, because my focus is gardening blogs and gardening writings. It is so easy for me to become distracted on the Web, especially the blogosphere, and spend my whole day there, when I should be focusing on my own writing: my book, my presentations, my articles, and my blog. So keep up the good work which is wonderful! Just know, that even if I don’t comment, I support all your ventures, my friend, especially this one. P. x

    • September 20, 2014    

      Thanks so much for letting me know you are here Pam…I completely understand having to focus your time as there is only so much of it.

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